When will the stages come? Why do I feel waves of sadness?

We’ve heard about them: denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance. We want a schedule for them. There is no schedule.

And so we wonder, “What if I miss a stage? What if I get stuck? I want to get it right.”

Or maybe we are doing fine, maintaining our composure, and then suddenly there is a wave of sadness. Or we’re crying and suddenly we start laughing. “What’s wrong with me?” we ask.

Nothing is wrong with you. And you probably won’t get stuck.

Grief is a response to loss, and you are sorting through all kinds of loss.

You can read more about the stages of grief. You can be aware that the waves are going to come.

But there’s nothing “wrong” with you.


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