We can feel happy for our loved one AND sad for ourselves.

Often, someone says, “We should be happy for Dad. He’s not suffering anymore.” I look at them and carefully say, “He’s not suffering, but he’s not here. And you still are.”

It’s possible for our loved one to be doing great and for us to be hurting like hell. I use that word carefully. I’m thinking about separation. We are not able to touch them, not able to talk to them and hear a response, not able to look into their eyes and to hear their laugh (or their sarcasm).

It’s the perfect example of mixed emotions. And it’s completely acceptable.

You aren’t lacking faith.

When Jesus wept at the grave of his friend Lazarus, he knew the short-term story and the long-term story. But he still expressed sadness.

If he could, you can.


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