“I don’t know why I can’t remember that.” I hear it all the time.
People forget how to write. People forget the names of places they have seen a hundred times.
And then people say, “I’m sorry. I can’t think of that name. I can’t remember my address. Why can’t I think of that name?”
They, or maybe you, feel like it must be your fault that you can’t remember.
I ask them not to apologize.
They, or maybe you, just had a massive disruption of everything. You are wondering about what will happen next. You are wondering what you could have done differently. You are thinking about what people will say, what people will expect from you. And, at the same time you have all these details, you are realizing that you will never have another conversation with this person.
Of course you can’t think the way you wish you could. Your mind is preoccupied by questions. Your body has just had a shock.
What can you do to help yourself?
You can ask people to repeat questions. You can ask other people to answer on your behalf. You can ask for a few minutes to think or to rest. You can eat something (even if you don’t feel like it).
Nothing’s wrong with your thinking. Everything is wrong with your heart.