Book Title: This Is Hard

Subtitle: What I Say When Loved Ones Die

Author: Jon Swanson

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Book Description: “This is hard.” With those words, a hospital chaplain acknowledges the pain we feel after the death of someone we love. And then slowly offers more answers to the questions we are feeling: “Why can’t I think?” “Is it okay to feel bad when they are at peace?” This short book is like a conversation with someone who understands loss, with words of clarification for our feelings and space to write what is worth remembering in the future. It’s helpful for people in the hours and days after a loss, and for pastors, friends, and family members who want to know what to say and what not to say.

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This project started to help me. There are things I say regularly when talking with families following a death. I wanted to put them together to be able to share with people I know who are themselves walking through a death. When I wish I could be with them, but I can’t, I wanted to have something to send instead of me.

And then I realized that it may be useful for other people, too.

You can read it on this page.  If you want to order a print copy, it’s available at Amazon: This Is Hard: What I Say When Loved Ones Die.

Thanks for stopping by.


Jon Swanson


This Is Hard Copyright © 2021 by Jon C Swanson. All Rights Reserved.


This Is Hard
Jon Swanson

Copyright © 2021 by Jon C. Swanson

All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof
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Author photo by Megin Hatch,

This is number six in the series, Resources on Faith, Sickness, Grief and Doubt.

This is a work of nonfiction. Identifying characteristics have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals described.

Publication Date
April 24, 2021